Pengajaran dalam kehidupan

Cerita Korea yg ditayangkan di, Astro 303 telah berjaya menarik perhatian aku. Jln cerita lain dari yang lain & membuat kita berfikir tentang kehidupan. Berkisar kpd kehidupan seorg lelaki, Deahon yg berkahwin dgn kekasihnya. Perkahwinannya tidak berlandaskan kejujuran tetapi lebih kpd rasa terhutang budi dgn kekasihnya. Beberapa bln sebelum perkahwinan, dia bertemu dgn seorg gadis yg dicintainya tetapi bertekad meneruskan perkahwinan tersebut kerana beranggapan bahawa tiada pilihan lain buat dirinya.  Dia menjalani kehidupan yg sukar apabila terpaksa berpura-pura gembira dgn cara kehidupan keluarga mertua yg kaya. Kemudiannya dia dapati bahawa isterinya menyukai lelaki lain & apabila berterus terang sesama sendiri, barulah masing-masing sedar bahawa keduanya tidak berminat utk berkahwin sesama sendiri. Isterinya bersetuju utk berkahwin kerana beranggapan itulah yg Deahon mahukan. Skrg mereka harus mencari jln utk memberitahu keluarga masing-masing yg mereka mahu berpisah.

 

Cerita ini menarik kerana membuatkan kita berfikir tentang kehidupan &  byk perkara boleh belajar darinya. Antaranya: 

Komunikasi adalah perkara penting dlm apa jua perhubungan. Sekiranya tidak ada komunikasi yg berkesan, di situlah pelbagai masalah akan timbul. Masing-masing akan membuat kesimpulan sendiri yg mungkin salah & boleh mengeruhkan keadaan. Jgn beranggapan bahawa orang lain tahu apa yg kita fikirkan & jgn kita beranggapan kita tahu apa yg orang lain fikirkan.

Setiap dr kita perlu buat pilihan dlm kehidupan. Sebelum membuat apa-apa keputusan & pilihan, kita haruslah membuat analisa  ke atas setiap  pilihan yg ada terlebih dahulu. Buatlah pilihan & keputusan yg terbaik untuk diri kita & semua bukan sekadar terbaik buat ketika itu sahaja tetapi keputusan yang terbaik untuk masa hadapan juga. Apa jua keputusan yg dibuat masa sekarang akan mempengaruhi & membentuk kehidupan kita dimasa akan dtg.

Kejujuran adalah tiang bagi segala perhubungan. Dlm apa jua perkara, kita haruslah bersikap jujur. Kadangkala kita tidak bersikap jujur kerana tidak mahu melukakan hati org lain. Tetapi kita harus ingat  bahawa kejujuran itu membantu memperbaiki keadaan. Kita tidak hanya perlu jujur dgn org lain tetapi kita harus jujur dgn diri sendiri. Adakah kita jujur dgn diri sendiri? Adakah kita melakukan sesuatu perkara kerana terpaksa walaupun kita tahu kita akan menderita? Jgn hanya kerana rasa terhutang budi kita sanggup korbankan diri sendiri. Tepuklah dada tanyalah selera. Tanya diri sendiri dgn sejujurnya apa yang kita mahu dalam hidup? Sanggup diri menderita asalkan org lain bahagia? Sampai bila kita boleh bertahan begitu? Jujurlah kepada diri sendiri kerana ini akan membantu org lain jua. Sekiranya kita tidak jujur kpd diri sendiri, kita sebenarnya adalah hipokrit. Hidup dalam kepura-puraan.

Yes to a long distance relationship?

I'm so impressed with a friend of mine today. I had a very interesting conversation with him today. Firstly he is being honest with me on few things which I believed some of my close friends don't even dare to say it out loud. The truth can be mean but I have to learn how to accept it. (No worries babe, points taken, no hard feelings, thank you for being honest with me & I'll try my best to improve. Anyhow sometimes you can be so annoying & for a guy, you talk too much... hahahaha) 

Secondly, he's so faithful to his girlfriend who is currently staying in XXXX. They are having a long distance relationship & it has been going on for quite a while. He has no doubt in her at all. He's so trusting. I asked him - nape tak suh GF cari keje kat KL je? He said he doesn't want to force the gf. Biar dia decide on what she wants to do with her life. He can only pray & believe in god's will. He's really a good man & so patience. I'm really impressed with him.

Frankly speaking, I'm so skeptical in a long distance relationship, I don't trust in a long distance relationship at all. Being surrounded with many so-called "unfaithful" & "unable-to-keep-their-promises" friends, it doesn't  help to restore my faith in a long distance relationship. I've seen many long distance relationships ended  on a bad note. Cheaters, liars & all in between, you just name it .But after listening to what he said, I might have changed my mind on that.

Emotionally unfit to work

Ari ni 4th day of raya & aku antara few Muslims  yg very unlucky have to come back to work. Being new joiner kat company baru takkan dapat cuti punya. Ari ni obviously tak de mood nak keje but have to pretend that I am ok to work. All my siblings smua kat umah lagi except for my sister yg kat Johor with the husband. Raya ni tak sempat jumpa dia pun. Benci betulla. 

Ah bencilah kena keje ari nih... Can i get MC being emotionally unfit to work? Takkan tak boleh kot since kat Jepun, if diorg putus cinta, diorg boleh dpt cuti sbb emotionally unfit. Kes ni lebih kurang laa sbb I'm also emotionally unfit to work sbb putus harapan tak dpt cuti raya... hahaha.. Tu di Jepun... Kat Malaysia takkan dapat MC guna alasan mcm tu...

Ari ni aku puasa 6. Tak boleh dok kat opis time lunch ni sebab penuh cabaran. Pusing kanan, pusing kiri semua non-Muslim. Mencabar betul bila diorg semua ni mkn dgn gembiranya depan aku. Makan lemang & rendang yg aku bawa tuk diorg lak tuh.... Tension. Aku nak cuti gak weh. Bukannya aku byk keje pun. Dari mula masuk till now buat workflow jer. Tak mencabar langsung. Inilah manusia, memang tak pernah bersyukur. Keje senang komplen, keje susah pun komplen. Patut bersyukur at least ada keje mencari rezeki yang halal. Bersyukur & insaflah wahai Fiszaitul.... 

Seh ngantuk lak. Ni smua gara-gara bangun awal sebab kena panaskan rendang & potong lemang tuk my ex-colleagues & new officemates. Better take this opportunity to sleep. Fisz, signing off...

Note : I'm writing this entry inside my car using my mobile phone.

From office to a nice eating place

This is my fifth post. It took me awhile to come out with this as I was bit busy with some changes in my career life. As some of you are aware that I just joined a new company on 1 Sept 2010. The changes were not so much on my job scope but mostly on the travel time to work & ways of doing things at the new place. Not use to all that but I can manage....

On my first day of work, I reached there 7.12am. Yes I know it was early. Maybe because of the spirit & anxiety of working at a new place. First time I've entered the parking space, I felt lost. After reached L6A, I started to laugh as I did not know how high I have to go just to get a parking space. I finally found a nice parking space at L9B (There is no designated parking space assign to you even though you are a season parking holder unless you are willing to pay extra for the designated parking space). Anyway, ever since then, I park at the same spot everyday - easy to come in & go out.

Environment at the new office is way too different from the previous office. I find the people are friendlier & the culture is more pleasant. Maybe because they have less working stress than my previous company. Well.. I do not know the real reason but I like it so far. I feel less stress there. The only stress I feel right now are stress of trying to perform as soon as you can at a new place & stress of stuck in traffic jam on the way back home.

Talking about stuck in traffic jam, I got stuck in jam yesterday for 2 hours.- KL to KD. 2 hours - is the  duration I normally take to drive back to my home town from KL. It was insane & my both legs were hurt so much. (FYI - I'm driving a manual car thus I will get sore legs every time I get stuck in  traffic jam). 

I got it all wrong yesterday, I totally forgot that yesterday was the last day of school before raya for most of the schools in Malaysia. Everybody was rushing home yesterday & knowing highways in Malaysia, it will get congested. Highways will become slowways or maybe we should call it snailways. Why is this so? I have no idea & somebody please PM me if you know why.

I promised a friend that I will meet him at one of the restaurants in KD at 6.40pm for iftar . I reached home 7pm instead. After 2 hours of driving in madness, headache + sore legs, I decided to head home first, change to more comfortable cloth & let him decide on a place for iftar. He chose a new restaurant called Cantina@KD. 

I reached Cantina exactly during azan Maghrib, just nice for iftar. I had no appetite to eat as I felt very tired & my legs were so damn sore. Frankly speaking I was almost to call off the plan after driving for 2 hours. Luckily I didn't.  The food  was superb especially the Cantina Beef Fried Rice & surprisingly I managed to finish it all. Cantina Beef Fried Rice is highly recommended to everyone (Aiyo, bagi free advertisement lak kat Cantina). Anyway, kudos to my friend who discovered this restaurant.