Pengajaran dalam kehidupan

Cerita Korea yg ditayangkan di, Astro 303 telah berjaya menarik perhatian aku. Jln cerita lain dari yang lain & membuat kita berfikir tentang kehidupan. Berkisar kpd kehidupan seorg lelaki, Deahon yg berkahwin dgn kekasihnya. Perkahwinannya tidak berlandaskan kejujuran tetapi lebih kpd rasa terhutang budi dgn kekasihnya. Beberapa bln sebelum perkahwinan, dia bertemu dgn seorg gadis yg dicintainya tetapi bertekad meneruskan perkahwinan tersebut kerana beranggapan bahawa tiada pilihan lain buat dirinya.  Dia menjalani kehidupan yg sukar apabila terpaksa berpura-pura gembira dgn cara kehidupan keluarga mertua yg kaya. Kemudiannya dia dapati bahawa isterinya menyukai lelaki lain & apabila berterus terang sesama sendiri, barulah masing-masing sedar bahawa keduanya tidak berminat utk berkahwin sesama sendiri. Isterinya bersetuju utk berkahwin kerana beranggapan itulah yg Deahon mahukan. Skrg mereka harus mencari jln utk memberitahu keluarga masing-masing yg mereka mahu berpisah.

 

Cerita ini menarik kerana membuatkan kita berfikir tentang kehidupan &  byk perkara boleh belajar darinya. Antaranya: 

Komunikasi adalah perkara penting dlm apa jua perhubungan. Sekiranya tidak ada komunikasi yg berkesan, di situlah pelbagai masalah akan timbul. Masing-masing akan membuat kesimpulan sendiri yg mungkin salah & boleh mengeruhkan keadaan. Jgn beranggapan bahawa orang lain tahu apa yg kita fikirkan & jgn kita beranggapan kita tahu apa yg orang lain fikirkan.

Setiap dr kita perlu buat pilihan dlm kehidupan. Sebelum membuat apa-apa keputusan & pilihan, kita haruslah membuat analisa  ke atas setiap  pilihan yg ada terlebih dahulu. Buatlah pilihan & keputusan yg terbaik untuk diri kita & semua bukan sekadar terbaik buat ketika itu sahaja tetapi keputusan yang terbaik untuk masa hadapan juga. Apa jua keputusan yg dibuat masa sekarang akan mempengaruhi & membentuk kehidupan kita dimasa akan dtg.

Kejujuran adalah tiang bagi segala perhubungan. Dlm apa jua perkara, kita haruslah bersikap jujur. Kadangkala kita tidak bersikap jujur kerana tidak mahu melukakan hati org lain. Tetapi kita harus ingat  bahawa kejujuran itu membantu memperbaiki keadaan. Kita tidak hanya perlu jujur dgn org lain tetapi kita harus jujur dgn diri sendiri. Adakah kita jujur dgn diri sendiri? Adakah kita melakukan sesuatu perkara kerana terpaksa walaupun kita tahu kita akan menderita? Jgn hanya kerana rasa terhutang budi kita sanggup korbankan diri sendiri. Tepuklah dada tanyalah selera. Tanya diri sendiri dgn sejujurnya apa yang kita mahu dalam hidup? Sanggup diri menderita asalkan org lain bahagia? Sampai bila kita boleh bertahan begitu? Jujurlah kepada diri sendiri kerana ini akan membantu org lain jua. Sekiranya kita tidak jujur kpd diri sendiri, kita sebenarnya adalah hipokrit. Hidup dalam kepura-puraan.

Yes to a long distance relationship?

I'm so impressed with a friend of mine today. I had a very interesting conversation with him today. Firstly he is being honest with me on few things which I believed some of my close friends don't even dare to say it out loud. The truth can be mean but I have to learn how to accept it. (No worries babe, points taken, no hard feelings, thank you for being honest with me & I'll try my best to improve. Anyhow sometimes you can be so annoying & for a guy, you talk too much... hahahaha) 

Secondly, he's so faithful to his girlfriend who is currently staying in XXXX. They are having a long distance relationship & it has been going on for quite a while. He has no doubt in her at all. He's so trusting. I asked him - nape tak suh GF cari keje kat KL je? He said he doesn't want to force the gf. Biar dia decide on what she wants to do with her life. He can only pray & believe in god's will. He's really a good man & so patience. I'm really impressed with him.

Frankly speaking, I'm so skeptical in a long distance relationship, I don't trust in a long distance relationship at all. Being surrounded with many so-called "unfaithful" & "unable-to-keep-their-promises" friends, it doesn't  help to restore my faith in a long distance relationship. I've seen many long distance relationships ended  on a bad note. Cheaters, liars & all in between, you just name it .But after listening to what he said, I might have changed my mind on that.

Emotionally unfit to work

Ari ni 4th day of raya & aku antara few Muslims  yg very unlucky have to come back to work. Being new joiner kat company baru takkan dapat cuti punya. Ari ni obviously tak de mood nak keje but have to pretend that I am ok to work. All my siblings smua kat umah lagi except for my sister yg kat Johor with the husband. Raya ni tak sempat jumpa dia pun. Benci betulla. 

Ah bencilah kena keje ari nih... Can i get MC being emotionally unfit to work? Takkan tak boleh kot since kat Jepun, if diorg putus cinta, diorg boleh dpt cuti sbb emotionally unfit. Kes ni lebih kurang laa sbb I'm also emotionally unfit to work sbb putus harapan tak dpt cuti raya... hahaha.. Tu di Jepun... Kat Malaysia takkan dapat MC guna alasan mcm tu...

Ari ni aku puasa 6. Tak boleh dok kat opis time lunch ni sebab penuh cabaran. Pusing kanan, pusing kiri semua non-Muslim. Mencabar betul bila diorg semua ni mkn dgn gembiranya depan aku. Makan lemang & rendang yg aku bawa tuk diorg lak tuh.... Tension. Aku nak cuti gak weh. Bukannya aku byk keje pun. Dari mula masuk till now buat workflow jer. Tak mencabar langsung. Inilah manusia, memang tak pernah bersyukur. Keje senang komplen, keje susah pun komplen. Patut bersyukur at least ada keje mencari rezeki yang halal. Bersyukur & insaflah wahai Fiszaitul.... 

Seh ngantuk lak. Ni smua gara-gara bangun awal sebab kena panaskan rendang & potong lemang tuk my ex-colleagues & new officemates. Better take this opportunity to sleep. Fisz, signing off...

Note : I'm writing this entry inside my car using my mobile phone.

From office to a nice eating place

This is my fifth post. It took me awhile to come out with this as I was bit busy with some changes in my career life. As some of you are aware that I just joined a new company on 1 Sept 2010. The changes were not so much on my job scope but mostly on the travel time to work & ways of doing things at the new place. Not use to all that but I can manage....

On my first day of work, I reached there 7.12am. Yes I know it was early. Maybe because of the spirit & anxiety of working at a new place. First time I've entered the parking space, I felt lost. After reached L6A, I started to laugh as I did not know how high I have to go just to get a parking space. I finally found a nice parking space at L9B (There is no designated parking space assign to you even though you are a season parking holder unless you are willing to pay extra for the designated parking space). Anyway, ever since then, I park at the same spot everyday - easy to come in & go out.

Environment at the new office is way too different from the previous office. I find the people are friendlier & the culture is more pleasant. Maybe because they have less working stress than my previous company. Well.. I do not know the real reason but I like it so far. I feel less stress there. The only stress I feel right now are stress of trying to perform as soon as you can at a new place & stress of stuck in traffic jam on the way back home.

Talking about stuck in traffic jam, I got stuck in jam yesterday for 2 hours.- KL to KD. 2 hours - is the  duration I normally take to drive back to my home town from KL. It was insane & my both legs were hurt so much. (FYI - I'm driving a manual car thus I will get sore legs every time I get stuck in  traffic jam). 

I got it all wrong yesterday, I totally forgot that yesterday was the last day of school before raya for most of the schools in Malaysia. Everybody was rushing home yesterday & knowing highways in Malaysia, it will get congested. Highways will become slowways or maybe we should call it snailways. Why is this so? I have no idea & somebody please PM me if you know why.

I promised a friend that I will meet him at one of the restaurants in KD at 6.40pm for iftar . I reached home 7pm instead. After 2 hours of driving in madness, headache + sore legs, I decided to head home first, change to more comfortable cloth & let him decide on a place for iftar. He chose a new restaurant called Cantina@KD. 

I reached Cantina exactly during azan Maghrib, just nice for iftar. I had no appetite to eat as I felt very tired & my legs were so damn sore. Frankly speaking I was almost to call off the plan after driving for 2 hours. Luckily I didn't.  The food  was superb especially the Cantina Beef Fried Rice & surprisingly I managed to finish it all. Cantina Beef Fried Rice is highly recommended to everyone (Aiyo, bagi free advertisement lak kat Cantina). Anyway, kudos to my friend who discovered this restaurant. 

Careful with money or stingy?

Ari ni the whole day tgk sports from football, F1 to badminton. Talking about badminton, at least Malaysia ada representative in the finals. Nak kata menang tu, tak tau lagi. The match is still on going. First game won by KKK & Tan Boon Heong. 2nd game is still in progress & Chinese pair is leading by 2 points. It would be great if our Malaysia pair wins this as all the matches from Men singles to women doubles all won by the Chinese. They are the dominant in the world of badminton.

I was online with a friend of mine today. Memang selalu kutuk dia & I always be frank with him. Dengan selamba je aku cakap dia kedekut. He is. I told him that there are differences between careful with money & stingy. He's not coming back to Malaysia for raya. He hardly come back. Reason being - too expensive & he has no money. He has no money??? He has money to buy shares which cost him more than 10K, dia de rumah sewa. Those are not his only income, he has more. He earns more than what I earn in a month.

He hardly spent his money on things which he thinks not bringing any income to him. I asked him - "what do you normally do for fun?".... He said - "Computer, main game. Travel but travel mahal so kena simpan duit". Dengan selamba I told him - "Good luck jumpa pompuan yang interested dgn ko". 

I can't speak on behalf of all the women but for me, I just want a guy who can give me the attention that I need, listen to my story & provide the support that I need. Money is important, yes but money is not everything. Money can't buy happiness. If a guy can bring home money enough for the family - he's good enough for me.

p/s: KKK & Tan Boon Heong lost to the Chinese pair.

BWF World Championship Quater Finals

I woke up late this morning as I stayed up watching BWF Badminton World Championship on Astro. Got pretty pumped up watching KKK & Tan Boon Heong against Chinese pair world ranked 14. On paper our Malaysian pair can win the match easily but it was not the case last night. They had to fight hard to win the match. The thing about our world no. 1 pair is - they are very good but sometimes they underestimate / look down on their opponent. Boleh kena heart attack la tengok their match everytime. I just hope they will play a better game for the quarter final match against Jung Jae Sung & Lee Yong Dae, Korean world no. 7.

Jae Sung & Yong Dae is a tricky opponent. Forget about their rank. They used to be world no. 1. They got to no. 7 after they had to pull out from so many tournaments due to injuries. If KKK & Boon Heong are not playing their best badminton against this pair, they can be outplayed easily. 

Another interesting match in the quarter finals is our own Datuk Lee Chong Wei against world no 5, Taufik Hidayat. Although Chong Wei has won all his encounters against Taufik for the last few years, I believe we  should never write off Taufik Hidayat from this tournament. His performance is not consistent but Taufik always delivers on big occasion. He is a former World champion  (2005) and a former Olympics champion (2004) in men's singles. These two titles have been eluding Chong Wei for such a long time. Chong Wei only managed Silver for Olympics, as we all know, he lost easily to Lin Dan in Beijing Olympics 2008 & Chong Wei only managed Bronze for World Championship in Anaheim 2005 where he lost to eventual winner - Taufik Hidayat.

Base on current performance, my money is on Chong Wei but he has to be careful against this tricky opponent. If Chong Wei progresses, he will be meeting either Park Sung Hwan or Lin Dan in the Semis. My prediction is the latter as Lin Dan has won 3 consecutive World Championship since 2006 - 2009. Lin Dan will be kicking himself if he is not progressing to the finals this year.

Kak Seri Siantan

Today is my second day at home. Taking break - in between jobs. Bangun awal this morning sebab my bro-in-law's alarm clock ringing non-stop. I was sleeping next room  boleh terjaga sebab that alarm clock tapi dia tak. He's a heavy sleeper. Had to bang on his door to wake him up. He's worse than a friend of mine. At least it took me 4 calls to wake him up for sahur. My bro-in-law? Aiyo, tak yah cite laa...

Hari ni bosan tahap gaban. The whole day online, download TV series & play with my cats. That's my activities for the last two days. Pretty much routine till a friend of mine actually suggested to feed my cats with poison so that I don't have to feed and play with them again & terminate my broadband so that I can't online anymore. That basically change my routine, so he said...

I've been online with couple of friends, to tell you the truth, bukannya close sangat pun dengan this particular friends but surprisingly, they opened up to me - told me about their stories & sorrows. Semua cerita pasal their love problems, seriously I don't know why. Probably they think I'm an expert on this matter. The ugly truth is, I don't even know how to sort my love life as well. I can't even tell a guy whom I like that I like him so much. How pathetic is that?

Anyhow, being Kak Seri Siantan, dengar je laa. Cerita- cerita hari ini:

STORY A : MARRIAGE PROPOSAL REJECTED - 3 TIMES

My friend's girlfriend rejected his marriage proposal 3 times. 3 kali babe kena reject wa cakap lu... Kesian abesla dengan mamat nih. Bercinta dah almost 7 years but bila ajak kawin boleh lak tak nak. I can tell you that if a girl rejected marriage proposal or even meet the parents with what so ever reason, meaning that she's not that into you. Apa lagi, buka mata & buka langkah tuk blah je laa. Nak tunggu apa lagi in a relationship  which you know it's going nowhere?

STORY B : MUKA CANTIK TAPI KETIAK BUSUK

Funny story. This issue came out when I told a group of friends about a friend of mine said I look like Maya Karin (hahahaha... Don't ask.. Aku pun tak tau part mana but no kidding, dia actually cakap macam tu).. Tiba-tiba je diorg buka isu ni cakap si xxxx muka cantik tapi ketiak busuk (I assume that's why they called her Rusa). Belum start main futsal dah cium bau busuk dia. Told them to buy her a roll on for her birthday but they refused to. Apa laa. Ada sorg tu dah kawan dgn si Rusa ni since 1997 but tak berani tegur pun dia pasal bau dia tu. Sanggup tu nak salam ujung-ujung jari sebab tak nak bau melekat. Hahahah... Gila gila...

STORY C : CHEATERS

My friend finally broke up with her long time boyfriend. Couple dah lama - 6 yrs. Both of them cheating on each other. Both of them going out with different partners since few months ago. Masing- masing tak tau they were cheating each other except for me. When I asked them the reasons for them to hold on to each other, these were their answers - 1) "sayang the relationship dah lama"  2) "I do not want to be the one who ends the relationship"  3) "Dah lama, just wait till the next best thing comes"... Apa jua alasan diorg,  for me they are cheaters. Cakap je la perkara sebenar. Anyhow they finally broke up. I heard that the guy is getting married to his new girlfriend in early Dec this year. My friend is meeting her new boyfriend's parents soon.

STORY D : IS HE IN LOVE?

My friend claims he finally in love. I asked him, how do you know that you are in love? He said, it's easy : You will think about the girl all the time, she's the first person you think about when you wake up every morning and she's the last person you wish to talk to every night, she will be the first person you think about whenever you are happy or sad or whenever something good or bad happens to you. You will miss her dearly & your heart feels like exploding whenever she's not around. Errrmmm... I guess he's really in love. Good for you man...